Episodes
Tuesday Jan 25, 2022
Dying Well, ft. Olga Nikolajev (#015)
Tuesday Jan 25, 2022
Tuesday Jan 25, 2022
Welcome to the penultimate episode of season 2!
There’s nobody more suited to guide us through this last stage than an end-of-life expert with over 25 years of experience. Olga Nikolajev RN, MA, CT is an end-of-life nurse, doula, dying well advocate, and cannabis educator.
She’ll use her death doula skills to teach us about dying well from a holistic point of view. This includes the spiritual, mental, physical, sexual, and emotional aspects. Yep. You read that right! We’ll also talk about her work in policy change, death literacy, social support, and even advocacy for psychedelics.
Join us as we change how we approach our dying experience...
Show notes:
- Kathy Kortes-Miller Working on educating children about Death Literacy
- Politics Behind Ontario’s SexEd Curriculum
- “Strong social support decreases mental health problems in young adults” via McGill University
- “Ontario ‘completely ignored and bulldozed’ problems in long-term care: former inspector” via Global News
- “Comfort Care, Hospice or Palliative Care; What's the Difference?” via Compassus
- Kerry Newnin
- “Cannabis In Hospice: Growing Demand And Acceptance For End-Of-Life Care” via Forbes
- “A Simple Guide to the Endocannabinoid System” via Healthline
- “Four Terminally Ill Canadians Gain Legal Right To Use Magic Mushrooms For End-Of-Life Distress” via Forbes
Tuesday Jan 11, 2022
A History Of Death (#014)
Tuesday Jan 11, 2022
Tuesday Jan 11, 2022
Since you all loved the “Ancient Perspectives On Death” episode from last season, we’re resurrecting it as a regular format!
This time around, Maria and Ammo discuss The Torajan people of Indonesia, who hang out with their dead on an annual basis, Tibetan Sky Burials, and more!
Let’s see what we can learn from other cultures about giving our loved ones a proper send-off and even continuing our relationship with them.
And don’t forget to let us know what other cultures you want us to cover in future episodes.
Show notes:
- BBC News: Living with the dead in Indonesia
- Cleaning the dead: the afterlife rituals of the Torajan people
- Tibetan Sky Burials: Stumbling upon the secret ritual of feeding the dead to vulture 'angels'
- Sky Burials: Tradition Becomes Controversial Tourist Attraction | Short Film Showcase
- Spiritfarer
Tuesday Dec 14, 2021
A Celebrant Funeral? ft. Linda Stuart (#013)
Tuesday Dec 14, 2021
Tuesday Dec 14, 2021
It’s the 21st Century, so why are funerals still so religious and downbeat? If only there was an alternative… some sort of Life Cycle Celebrant?
You’re in luck! Gone are the stuffy old preachers, and in comes the secular master of ceremonies, Linda Stuart. Linda creates meaningful ceremonies to help people honour the difficult changes in life and to also celebrate the joyful ones.
We’ll discuss what she does, the myth of closure, the Welsh word to describe a grieving “homesickness for something to which you cannot return,” and even toxic positivity (Ammo rant detected!)
Join us and see why cold, dusty churches don’t always have to be written into your final chapter.
Show notes:
- Check out Linda Stuart’s work
- What is Toxic Positivity? Via Very Well Mind
- The Myth of Closure: Why Experts Say It Doesn’t Exist via How Stuff Works
- Welsh word: Hiraeth
Tuesday Nov 30, 2021
This Is Your Death: Forgotten Fatalities (#012)
Tuesday Nov 30, 2021
Tuesday Nov 30, 2021
Join your unhallowed hosts for This Is Your Death!
This is a game show where we detail the wildest, most unusual, and downright brutal deaths throughout history.
From blood eagles to laughing yourself to death, Blackbeard’s last stand, and more, Ammo and Maria cover the lot. We’ll also quiz each other on which incidents sound more like they were from Ancient Greece or the UK!
Reach out to us with more infamous fatalities and this may not be the last you see of this format... Muahahaha.
Show notes:
- “Dying from Laughing Too Hard” Via Healthline
- “10 Incredibly Bizarre Ways People Died In Ancient Greece” via List Verse
- Hugh le Despenser being hanged, drawn, and quartered
- “The BRUTAL Murder of King Edward II” via video
- The Brazen Bull Torture and Death Device
- Blast from the past: The Battle of York
Tuesday Nov 16, 2021
Grief Counselling 101, ft. Irish Dhindsa (#011)
Tuesday Nov 16, 2021
Tuesday Nov 16, 2021
Grieving is never easy. But who said you’ve got to deal with it alone? Bring in an expert - that’s what we did!
Irish Dhindsa is a professional grief support worker, specializing in community outreach at the Bereaved Families of Ontario. She’s here to talk to us about support systems, our journey of healing, and even her similar experiences to Ammo with Punjabi culture.
We then put what we’ve learned to the test with a game of Wheel of Misfortune!
Finally, Irish walks us through the physical changes that our brains go through when experiencing trauma - the neuroanatomy of grief.
Get to grips with your grief right here, folks.
Show notes:
- https://www.bereavedfamilies.ca/
- Ontario support systems for grief and bereavement
- Sikh and Punjabi death and end-of-life rituals
- https://deathcafe.com/
- https://www.bereavedfamilies.ca/tipsheets
- What to expect when grieving via Bereaved Families of Ontario
- Functional Neuroanatomy of Grief via American Journal of Psychiatry
- Personality changes and grief
Tuesday Nov 02, 2021
The Deadliest Place On Earth? Death In Disney (#010)
Tuesday Nov 02, 2021
Tuesday Nov 02, 2021
Whether it was Bambi’s mom, Simba’s dad, or Ellie from Up, everyone remembers their first mentally scarring Disney death. In this episode, your hosts dig up some repressed childhood memories by discussing their most memorable deaths from Disney. We’ll then compare these to a published psychological study of death in Disney movies to see what they’re teaching our children about mortality. It turns out that the kids of today (and yesterday!) have been exposed to far more death than you might think. But that’s not a bad thing… Hakuna Matata, and all that. Happy listening! Show notes:
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Tuesday Oct 19, 2021
Planning For The End, ft. Mallory McGrath (#009)
Tuesday Oct 19, 2021
Tuesday Oct 19, 2021
There’s an irony in kicking off season two with an episode about end-of-life planning. It’s lost on your hosts as we bring in an industry expert on the subject! Mallory McGrath is the Founder & CEO of Viive Planning, and also champions the importance of discussing death with children… a challenge all parents face, and very few are prepared to handle. After learning Mallory’s story about how she entered the field, we’ll learn some valuable truths about what to expect when prepping for the final journey. These truths then come in handy for a famous inheritance dispute pop quiz! Join us as we address the state of… well, estates. Links:
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Tuesday Oct 05, 2021
Finding Hope In Dark Humour, ft. Tawny Platis (#008)
Tuesday Oct 05, 2021
Tuesday Oct 05, 2021
Surprise!
Deathmedians, spousal deaths, and widhoe-ing… Join your macabre MCs, Maria and Ammo, as we bring Philotimo back to life with this bonus intro episode – two weeks early.
We’ll start by catching you up on our improved format, release schedule, and what to expect from season two.
We’ll then bring in Tawny Platis, host of the super-popular podcast, Death is Hilarious, where she chats with others about using dark humour to cope with grief. You’ll also know her from her “Trashy Widowed Aunt” TikTok sketches that bring widows together, globally.
Finally, we’ll explore how Philotimo Life fits into the larger “Deathmedian” space. Ooooh!
It’s great to be back, and it’s better to know we’re not alone.
Links:
- Death is Hilarious – Follow Tawny on social media!
- Trauma Response = People Pleasing via Paces Connection
- “Daily Consequences of Widowhood”
- What is Dia de los Muertos
- What is Hypoplastic Right Heart Syndrome?
- “Humor can help you manage grief and cope with loss” via Thrive Works
- Follow Philotimo Life on social!
Sunday Mar 28, 2021
Surviving Season One (#007)
Sunday Mar 28, 2021
Sunday Mar 28, 2021
Congratulations! You survived Death 101.
To celebrate your new status as a thanatologist-in-training, Maria and Ammo wrap up season one by going over their newfound understandings and favourite moments. As a special thank you to our listeners, there’s also a bumpin’ remix made of bloopers and a compilation of hilarious Anchorman-esque vocal warm-ups!
Finally, they reveal what to expect from season two of Philotimo Life… which may be rising from the grave sooner than you might think.
As always, happy listening and here’s to a hundred more seasons!
Show notes:
- Follow Stacie on Spotify!
- Russel Brand and David Kessler - Death, Grief & Finding
- That Discomfort You’re Feeling is Grief via HBR
Sunday Mar 28, 2021
The Models & Process of Grief (#006)
Sunday Mar 28, 2021
Sunday Mar 28, 2021
Pop quiz: how many stages of grief are there?
...WRONG! The question should be, which grief model applies to you and in which way? In this episode, Maria and Ammo go through entirely different models of grieving. That’s right – there’s more than just the five stages model that we’re all so familiar with… but they also touch on why you’re remembering that one incorrectly, too!
Focusing on the story of a man called Edgar, they apply the Elisabeth Kubler-Ross ‘Five Stages Model’ and other ones such as the ‘Attachment Model,’ the ‘Phase Model,’ and more.
Happy listening!
Show notes:
- Five Stages of Grief - Kubler-Ross Model
- Parkes and Bowlby Grief Models
- Beyond the five stages of grief (a reference to Colin Murray Parkes’ model)
- The One thing no one ever says about grieving
- What does grief feel like? Via The Guardian
- 21 Ways to Help Someone You Love Through Grief via TIME